| Demand a just and proportional treatment. Reject or ignore unjust and capricious behavior. If you are up to the inevitable confrontation, react in kind. Let him taste some of his own medicine. Never show your abuser that you are afraid of him. Do not negotiate with bullies. They are insatiable. Do not succumb to blackmail. If things get rough- disengage, involve law enforcement officers, friends and colleagues, or threaten him (legally). Do not keep your abuse a secret. Secrecy is the abuser's weapon. Never give him a second chance. React with your full arsenal to the first transgression. Be guarded. Don't be too forthcoming in a first or casual meeting. Gather intelligence. Be yourself. Don't misrepresent your wishes, boundaries, preferences, priorities, and red lines. Do not behave inconsistently. Do not go back on your word. Be firm and resolute. Mirror His Behavior Mirror the narcissist’s actions and repeat his words. If, for instance, he is having a rage attack – rage back. If he threatens – threaten back and credibly try to use the same language and content. If he leaves the house – leave it as well, disappear on him. If he is suspicious – act suspicious. Be critical, denigrating, humiliating, go down to his level. Frighten Him Identify the vulnerabilities and susceptibilities of the narcissist and strike repeated, escalating blows at them. If a narcissist has a secret or something he wishes to conceal – use your knowledge of it to threaten him. Drop cryptic hints that there are mysterious witnesses to the events and recently revealed evidence. Do it cleverly, noncommittally, gradually, in an escalating manner. Let his imagination do the rest. You don't have to do much except utter a vague reference, make an ominous allusion, delineate a possible turn of events. |
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